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Being in love and having a partner to lean on through thick and thin is nice, but at the same time, we also know that relationships are not for the faint-hearted!
For one, there’s the endless list of red flags (or maybe flags that only look red to us) we often discover in our partner along the way.
So, we thought we’d ask Malaysians about traits that appear to be red flags to them, but aren’t actually red flags IRL. These are the answers we got:
Here are 22 flags that are red to some…
#1 When he doesn't yap like I yap
“Like why isn’t he sharing anything about anything?”
#2 When she texts me too much
“I ain’t tryna be like it’s judgement day wdym.”
#3 When I’m AWOL on his socials
“If he isn’t showing me off, then what’s he even doing?”
#4 When he lives with his parents
“And that’s on ✨ trauma✨”
#5 When she cusses all the time
“No one likes a potty mouth…”
#6 When he doesn't reply my texts IMMEDIATELY
“Your job is me 24/7 365 period.”
#7 When someone assumes their partner should pay for everything
“Find someone that fits your wallet lah.”
#8 When his social skills online don't add up to real life
“If he wanted to, he would right? Right.”
#9 When he doesn't have a work schedule that matches mine
“Like why do you not have a work work schedule anyway?”
#10 When he's an only child
“Did once, never again!”
#11 When he's the youngest and only has sisters
“Older sisters are psychos.”
#12 When she doesn't like your music and movie tastes
“Where’s your taste at brother?”
#13 When he's chronically online
“I need guys who posts once a year, thank yew.”
#14 When they can't argue
“And who am I supposed to fight with?”
#15 When they don't like healthy food
“Unhealthy habits were like cute in the 2000s.”
#16 When someone changes their personality for a partner
“Dignity who she?”
#17 When my partner gives me solutions, but I just want them to be emotional with me
“Like, if I’m mad, you’re mad. But also I don’t want you to be mad just because I said so, I want you to want to be mad.”
#18 When they don't appreciate the Lord of the Rings
“I’m iconic, so how are you… not?”
#19 When their date fits don't even reach bare minimum
“Giving ick FR”
#20 When they have no exes
“It’s called practice makes perfect boo, pick it up”
#21 When they buy you gifts they like and not gifts you like
“The math is not mathing, ma’am.”
#22 Mommy boys
“Um, how about no.”
Phew… that was a trip!
But of course, those red flags are not applicable to all relationships or every partner. To each their own!
What do you think are some flags that are kinda red to you, but are not actual negative traits? Something to think about today, bestie. 😉